… when I make sincere, genuine, caring comments and they get brushed aside as though he was completely clueless to the fact that I actually care about him. And I ask him a personal question – specifically noting that he did NOT have to answer – and the response I got started with something like… I’ve told you that answer before.
That’s something I hated about my relationship with him, mostly just the months since our original break-up. He won’t just shoot me straight. It’s these mind-games. I’m supposed to put the pieces together and figure out what he’s thinking/how he feeling on my own without him telling me.
This is like a role-reversal of the male/female stereotypes… he’s supposed to be the one confused about what’s going on in MY mind and HE’S the who’s supposed to be upset because I won’t just tell him exactly what I want.
What the heck does he want from me? To leave him alone? Then why doesn’t he just tell me that! Instead, he says stuff to me that he knows will make me worry about him (like he did in >> this post <<). And I worry about him… rightly so, given what I assume is going on. And why does he leave it up to me to assume? Why didn’t he just tell me straight out?
Then the next time we talk, since I’ve been worried about it, I bring it up the general issue and he blows it off.
Oh, China Man, what the heck?!
Again, I thought you were leaving this angry place for the nice new happy (ier) place. That is part of moving on too.
Yes. I don’t want to be mad at him. I actually really like him, as a person and as a friend. After yesterday (and this post) I see that I need to again, take a step back…